Common use of Incentives and Consequences Clause in Contracts

Incentives and Consequences. One of the hardest things about parenting is enforcing guidelines/rules. The two main goals are to have a limited number of rules and to have the kids help create them inline with their maturity level. For rules to be effective, there needs to be incentives and consequences in place. Research tells us that our behaviors are more likely to be changed through positive incentives than deterrents. This is especially true for kids. When coming up with positive incentives, get input from your kids. For example, if your child gives her phone to you at 9 pm without asking, then Friday night is dessert night, special film night, parents pick up her room (just kidding), but you get idea. We all know that negative consequences are a lot easier to make--i.e. take the phone away. But the key is to not over punish. For example, Xxxxx has a rule that there are no screens, including her phone, in her room. When I was filming Screenagers I found that many young teens disappear into their rooms with their phones. Xxxxx is accustomed to having a phone-free room now and she says it motivates her to do other things like write in her journal. Now and then, she does sneak her phone in into her room, but instead of getting mad, I talk to her about it and simply ask her to go out of her room with it. However, if it happens again, I take her phone and keep it for the night.

Incentives and Consequences. One of the hardest things about parenting is enforcing guidelines/rules. The two main goals are to have a limited number of rules and to have the kids help create them inline with their maturity level. For rules to be effective, there needs to be incentives and consequences in place. Research tells us that our behaviors are more likely to be changed through positive incentives than deterrents. This is especially true for kids. When coming up with positive incentives, get input from your kids. For example, if your child gives her phone to you at 9 pm without asking, then Friday night is dessert night, special film night, parents pick up her room (just kidding), but you get idea. We all know that negative consequences are a lot easier to make--i.e. take the phone away. But the key is to not over punish. For example, Xxxxx has a rule that there are no screens, including her phone, in her room. When I was filming Screenagers filmingScreenagers I found that many young teens disappear into their rooms with their phones. Xxxxx is accustomed to having a phone-free room now and she says it motivates her to do other things like write in her journal. Now and then, she does sneak her phone in into her room, but instead of getting mad, I talk to her about it and simply ask her to go out of her room with it. However, if it happens again, I take her phone and keep it for the night.