Speak for yourself. Make “I” statements.
Speak for yourself. Make “I” statements, not “you” statements.
Speak for yourself. Use I-messages. Be aware of your own “politics of location” (Xxxxxxxx Xxxx, 1985)
Speak for yourself. Do not bring parents or family members with you to your interview. The consular officer wants to interview you, not your family. A negative impression is created if you are not prepared to speak on your own behalf.
Speak for yourself. Use "I" and be aware that your perspective is not everyone's perspective or the 'normal' perspective. ● Embrace multiple perspectives to engage in curiosity-driven dialogue (not debate or argument). Have compassion for and honor people’s varied journeys while respecting their humanity. The goal of dialogue should not be to change anyone’s mind, but to offer and receive a perspective for consideration and curiosity. Even if your every cell feels in disagreement with someone’s perspective, right and wrong binaries rarely build connection and understanding. Do note that racism, bigotry, and all other forms of oppression are not a difference of opinion and will not be tolerated. ● Be aware of the privilege, oppressions, and life experiences you carry and how they might impact your discussion process.
Speak for yourself. Use “I” statements. When you speak for yourself, you use “I”, “me”, or “my.” When you speak for yourself you take responsibility for what you say, and you own your statements. This helps your messages be clear and easier for others to hear. Others will be more likely to accept what you say and less apt to discount your thoughts, feelings, and wants. For example: “I need more time to think about…” “Here are my thoughts on that question…” “Your understanding of this is helpful for me…”
